The Humiliation In Caring More
There’s a certain humiliation in realizing I care more. Not the dramatic kind — just a quiet, dull sting that settles under the skin. It shows up in small ways. The “oh sorry I forgot” texts. The conversations that die unless I resuscitate them. The way I’m always the one checking in, nudging, holding everything upright while everyone else just… exists. And the worst part is how stupid it makes me feel. Like I’m handing out gold to people who bring plastic in return. I keep circling the same question: Do I protect my peace, or do I keep trying? But trying for what? To convince people to like me? To earn the bare minimum? To pretend the imbalance doesn’t scream every time I reread our conversations? It’s not even heartbreak. It’s irritation. It’s boredom. It’s the growing awareness that I’m investing in people who treat connection like a background noise. Some people just don’t choose me the way I choose them. Not because they’re cruel — just because they don’t think about me as mu...